When I was much younger, my MSG Schaffer asked me one of his important, character forming questions.
“PFC Hill, in order for us to have a meaningful conversation, one of us has to be on send, one of us has to be on receive. Now, do you want to send, or receive?”
I’m a little embarrassed to admit that although I answered ‘receive’, he felt it necessary to ask me the question twice.
I’m not sure if you’ve had previous military experience, but I can tell you that MSG Schaffer was being extremely generous by asking me the question a second time. We both knew he didn’t have to ask once, let alone twice.
Today, I”m still thankful for that question. I ask myself that all the time when coaching a client. “Do I want to be on send, or receive?”and “Does this client want to be on send, or receive?”
Even in life, walking down the street, am I on send or receive? The implication is, what would I miss if I am on send and not receive? And what do you miss by being on send?
For example, a client recently wanted me to help with a job application. They were frustrated with the web process and asked me to help. I agreed, but before we began, he wanted to send. He felt it was important to tell me about his work history and his career up to this point.
Because he had a long career (I believe he was in his mid-60’s) the time to ’send’ me his career history took quite some time.
As he took me through a history of an incredible life, from bridge engineer to aid worker to starving children in 3rd world countries, into self-publishing, authoring and careers beyond telemarketer and fundraiser, he indicated that he’d recently helped out a retired priest.
He felt lucky to have been there to help protect this priest, because he was about to be victimized by a con-man, all too willing to take the retired priest’s life savings to help him avoid his soul going to hell.
After listening, I told this Renaissance man that his real purpose as I heard it was defender of the helpless. And instead of applying for a job, he needed to first discover who needed defenders enough to pay for them, then simply go find them and let them know he was available.
Had I been on send and not receive, I would have missed the real opportunity to help someone discover themselves.
On that day, I was very glad for my Master Sergeant. Thanks MSG Schaffer, wherever you are. Message received.
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